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How To Forgive Yourself

How To Forgive Yourself

I was supposed to have another blog out last Wednesday about the difference between guilt and responsibility.  It would help with understanding how you can forgive. Because so much of forgiveness is taking responsibility for your future and not waiting around for someone else to take care of you, you need to know to taking responsibility doesn’t mean you’re guilty. But I’m guilty of saying I’d get it done and then not doing it. I need … Read entire article »

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Fine! don’t forgive.

Fine! don’t forgive.

  Because you can’t be forced to!  Let’s go over that again.  You, the person who got hurt, cannot be forced to let go of your pain.  You can hold onto the memory and the jagged edge of every bad thing that happened to you, and I mean it sincerely that you have a right to do that. When other people get their sappy smiles and tell you to forgive whatever monster lived in your closet with … Read entire article »

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Goal!

Goal!

I had a goal this week to write one blog a day, even if it was a sentence and a picture. Here’s the last blog and my goal is complete, for now.  Remember that goals should be a constant part of your life.  If you have a direction you’re going towards, you are less emotionally reactive, have greater emotional stability, and a better sense of your own power to change the world around you.  When … Read entire article »

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Don’t be so responsible, at least not for everyone else!

Don’t be so responsible, at least not for everyone else!

Who are you responsible for?  Most adult women don’t know the answer to this question.  They think they do, but they are taking care of everyone else around them, not taking care of themselves, and then resenting someone else for the state of their lives.  Plenty of men are doing the same things and talking about how they can’t ever get out of a job they hate. If you’re going to have a goal, you are … Read entire article »

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Linear is great, if you’re a line.

Linear is great, if you’re a line.

  Every now and then some helpful soul will give me a new set of how-to-plan forms.  In the past I’ve even tried to use them. Then always felt like I was this failure, because they never worked for me. Well, I’m not a line. I don’t think in a linear fashion, which is often true for people who have any kind of ADD, ADHD, or other differences in how they process information. If you’ve tried and … Read entire article »

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Forget multi-tasking, get a toggle switch.

Forget multi-tasking, get a toggle switch.

  There’s all these studies I won’t bore you with, that state that multitasking  does not work.  The same studies go on to say that no one really multitasks. All of us toggle back and forth between different tasks wasting energy and being less efficient. The people who did the studies ought to have a few kids. Because let me tell you, if you’ve got kids you multitask. You are doing the dishes, and making sure nobody … Read entire article »

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You need your Yoda.

You need your Yoda.

There’s plenty of people who will get in your way, tell you it can’t be done, yada, yada, yada, when you really need Yoda.  You need that person who will respectfully tell you you’re full of it or genuinely help you celebrate success.  You pick them, you let them guide you, and they get the joy of mentoring your success.  Now where can you find them? The internet has blogs and info pages about everything these … Read entire article »

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Make it easy to keep your goals!

Make it easy to keep your goals!

  I have two times in any given day that actually belong to me. 1. Before everyone else wakes up. 2. After everyone else has gone to bed.  Otherwise I’m between a rock and hard place on finding time for myself and the goals I want for just me.  So I wake up at 4:45 and go work out.  When you’re talking about making yourself a priority in the midst of a busy life with other … Read entire article »

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How to set a goal you’ll actually keep.

How to set a goal you’ll actually keep.

Think small.  Now go smaller.  Go so miniscule that you cannot help but succeed and then you have success to build on.  It’s a simple idea that I’m going to show you works, or prove that it can’t. I’m going to write a short blog each day for the next week.  It might be a picture and a sentence, but it will be up and it will be on facebook. I’ve realized that what I’m capable of … Read entire article »

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How to save your child!

How to save your child!

Last post was on how to ruin your child, but some people do most of those and still have decent children.  How the heck is that happening? Resiliency.  The ability to come through tough times with your better self intact and growing.  Some children seem to have a natural store of this, while others can get to this state with help and training.  So here are 10 ways to help any child withstand and thrive in … Read entire article »

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