Spring is coming (here in the north we’re expecting it in less than 4 months) and it’s time to clean out your house. And for every action in your house or apartment, there’s even more important work to do on your heart and soul.
We call the eyes windows to the soul, a place we see out, and others have a chance to see in. But have you looked at your windows lately? If you haven’t cleaned them in a while, you’re not seeing the world clearly and people may have a distorted view of you.
A few items we clean off the windows.
- Bugs. These poor guys are just flying along minding their own business and run into your house. In the emotional world these are the natural, daily, events that hit us and we don’t even think about them. Snow and rain on the day you wanted to wear your new spring shoes or play a pick-up game in the park. Sudden changes in your day, too much traffic, and the annoying mosquito person at work, can all build up without any of us really noticing.
- Bird Crap! They really don’t do it to you. It’s not personal and they’re not aiming at your windows more than your neighbors. It just seems that way. Bad stuff happens in your life. Things that can seem pointed, and like the universe really is out to get you, can leave long smears of frustration and disappointment .
- Rain drops & sprinklers. The things that should clean, but may leave residue in the smallest most persistent ways, can also fog your vision. Think of these as memories of good times, old habits that don’t seem that bad, and expectations that used to fit you.
- Eggs, doggie bombs, & paint balls. Yep, sometimes it is personal and someone is out to get you. This is the long standing feud at work or home, the 16 year old who screams at you every time you ask where the homework is, and the driver who flipped you off after cutting into your lane without a turn signal. People aren’t always nice. Heck, some of them aren’t ever nice. If one of those has made you the target of their unjustified wrath, you have some nasty to clean off your windows.
- Pollution. We live in a world that is filled with too many choices, too many noises, too many people, and too many stresses. It’s all around us. Just being here in this day and age is a stress that we overlook and underplay. It leaves a residue that can be hard to focus through but builds up so gradually you may not even realize it’s there.
If you clean all of this and have nothing clouding your vision, what could happen? You could give yourself a chance to see clearly for the first time in years. Maybe you’re not the bad things you’ve been labeling yourself as. Maybe you’re a stronger person who needs to finally appreciate yourself. Get out of the shadows and stop letting bad people and bad experiences influence the rest of your life. Yah, we’ve all had stupid days and done shameful things. Clean that off the windows and stop letting it color your world. Give yourself the ability to focus beyond where you are and look out to where you want to be. Clean the inconsequential bugs and residue off your eyes and see a better future for yourself. What you can see, believe and plan for, you can achieve. First you have to see.
How to get those windows clean!
- Vinegar. It smells. It cuts through bird crap and wipes away residue. It is the sometimes painful experience of questioning all your assumptions and expectations. Sit down and write out what you expect from life, what are so mad about? Are your expectations realistic? Are they part of the problem? Do you assume you’ll always loose and aren’t worth winning? Be strong enough to face your old world view head on. Then give the reasons it’s not right anymore. Write those on sticky notes and book marks, have them as your screen saver on your phone and computer. Remind yourself daily that you are a new person.
- Get help. Windows by yourself are overwhelming. My mother would make all of us kids do this together for a great bonding experience of whining and accusing her of having brought us into this world for slave labor. But at least we weren’t alone. Ask people how they see you and really listen. Look especially hard for the positives you’re missing and the negatives that are holding you back. When you find a friend or mentor you can trust with these questions, leave the door open for more information from them. Friends that will tell you the truth without judging you, are worth their weight in gold. Keep them close no matter how uncomfortable it can seem.
- Put a sheet over the windows. There are days when you know the proverbial crap is hitting the fan. It’s really ok to take a break. Close your eyes and let the breeze feel good. You need enough rest to feel rested or you won’t have the energy to do more than exist. This can also mean an information fast. Turn off the news. Don’t read the paper. Give yourself a week long break from incoming information so you can have some time to process what’s already banging around in your head.
- Put up some protection. If you build in overhangs, put up sun coverings, or just redirect the sprinklers, you are narrowing what will get splattered on your windows. In life, you may need to narrow your choices down to a manageable number. Give yourself 15 minutes in the grocery story and stick to the list. Only look at the items that are already in your price range. Our brains get overloaded by too many choices and it begins to affect our view of the world and ourselves. People are more depressed these days partially because they believe they could be happier and should be. Everything is out there, why can’t I find it? Well, because it’s now hidden in a mountain of other options that are visually overwhelming and emotionally draining to sift through.
- Clean something. The act of cleaning up a section of your house, the top of your desk, even your windows, will help you see a physical difference that you made happen. When you clean, you physically enact what you’re trying to do mentally. It allows your mind-body feedback loops to work in your favor. And we all tend to think better in a visually calming environment. Take one small area and make it calm enough to look at and feel good. You’ll see more options for yourself and open up a space for new thoughts about yourself.
I hope this spring brings good things to your life, light to your eyes, and new beginnings you can be excited about.