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How to save your child!

How to save your child!

Last post was on how to ruin your child, but some people do most of those and still have decent children.  How the heck is that happening? Resiliency.  The ability to come through tough times with your better self intact and growing.  Some children seem to have a natural store of this, while others can get to this state with help and training.  So here are 10 ways to help any child withstand and thrive in … Read entire article »

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How to ruin your child!

How to ruin your child!

Now I’m aware there are good kids out there being raised right.  I also know there are children who get raised by loving parents doing everything right and the kid still hares off into all sorts of crazy.  There’s also some children out there being raised by well-meaning but not terribly effective parents.  The kids who are terrorizing the rest of the school and making life hard on everyone.  So forgive me if I sound … Read entire article »

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Spring Cleaning out your life.

Spring is coming (here in the north we’re expecting it in less than 4 months) and it’s time to clean out your house.   And for every action in your house or apartment, there’s even more important work to do on your heart and soul. We call the eyes windows to the soul, a place we see out, and others have a chance to see in.  But have you looked at your windows lately?  If you haven’t … Read entire article »

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Help! My family won’t support my parenting.

  You put your child on a gluten free diet and your grandfather took her out for pizza.  You tell your parents “we’re trying a new church as a family” and they take your children aside to warn them about how Mommy & Daddy are going to hell.  You’re so grateful for a diagnosis that helps you deal with and explain your child’s behavior; until your family starts casually mentioning all the ways you did things … Read entire article »

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How to Grieve When You’re Still Angry

Or hurt, disgusted, confused, maybe even scared.  People die.  The relationships they created go on past death to strengthen or haunt those left behind. You will grieve the person that should have been there, and the one you had instead. You’ll grieve what you didn’t get from them. You’ll grieve for the other people they hurt, and maybe feel confused about the people who are missing someone you don’t really recognize. If you had good memories too, you’ll probably … Read entire article »

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People are trying to Control you

And they have so many ways to do this.  You might think that controllers only yell and directly order you around, but they can be so much sneakier than that.  You may not even know where someone else is taking over your life.  So before we can talk about how to deal, we need to learn how to recognize. “Don’t worry about me, I’m fine”  Sure they are.  Because they are sucking you dry for everything … Read entire article »

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Stop Attracting Crazy People!

If you look around and your friends take advantage, your family takes you for granted, and your job is in Hell’s waiting room, the common denominator here is you. There is a way out if you’re willing to change. Put yourself in at least the top five of your priority list.  If you’re not important to you, no one else has to take you seriously either.  You’re probably worried that some people will say you’re self-centered and … Read entire article »

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Why Do I have Irrational Anger Over Simple Conversations with my Parent?

Why Do I have Irrational Anger Over Simple Conversations with my Parent?

QUESTION: My mother sends me e-mails that drive me crazy and the worst part of it is I don’t know why. I see her name in the in box and start getting frustrated. I’m sending you the latest e-mail. Please tell me why I get so upset! ANSWER: If this communication was from someone you just met and you were this upset, the issue would be yours. But it’s from mom. So we … Read entire article »

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What To Do Around Insensitive People Who Just Don’t Learn

I tell people on a regular basis that if they walk outside while it’s raining, stop cursing God for getting wet. If you know what will happen next and don’t deal with it, won’t prepare for it, refuse to face it; you will get wet.  Either take your umbrella, or deal with the cold walk to your car. Screaming at the sky makes you look psychotic and keeps you uncomfortable for a longer … Read entire article »

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My Parents Don’t Understand My Struggle With Addictions

If you’re at the place where your ready to admit you have a problem, think carefully before you go to a parent who has a history of self-centered, invalidating behavior.  Your parents may or may not be able to help.  Some will actually make things worse.  If your parent has typically judged you before you can explain, told you it really didn’t hurt, and then expected you to understand their pain,  they will actively sabotage your recovery process.  … Read entire article »

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