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Forgiveness is NOT a free pass.

Forgiveness is NOT a free pass.

  No one can force you to forgive.  You also can’t be forced into taking vitamins, staying away from abusers, and following your dreams.  Let’s get this straight right now.  Forgiveness is NOT for the other person.  It’s for YOU. When you forgive, you no longer put the energy into the other person, into hoping for their pain, or wishing they would finally make yours right.  You put yourself in charge of the future and allow the … Read entire article »

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How to save your child!

How to save your child!

Last post was on how to ruin your child, but some people do most of those and still have decent children.  How the heck is that happening? Resiliency.  The ability to come through tough times with your better self intact and growing.  Some children seem to have a natural store of this, while others can get to this state with help and training.  So here are 10 ways to help any child withstand and thrive in … Read entire article »

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How to deal with Grief

How to deal with Grief

Just not the typical stuff that everyone always told you about. This is about the things no one says and most people seem to pretend isn’t happening.  So in no particular order, here’s a list of what you might face and some tips to make the process less painful. Justification will get you into trouble and you will have a VERY good supply of justification.  Have any old bad habits that have died the good death? Grief … Read entire article »

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Spring Cleaning out your life.

Spring Cleaning out your life.

Spring is coming (here in the north we’re expecting it in less than 4 months) and it’s time to clean out your house.   And for every action in your house or apartment, there’s even more important work to do on your heart and soul. We call the eyes windows to the soul, a place we see out, and others have a chance to see in.  But have you looked at your windows lately?  If you haven’t … Read entire article »

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Responsibility will set you free.

Responsibility will set you free.

  Responsibility is a big word with life long effects.  If your child can learn this one word and all the things it means, you will have given them freedom. Or maybe you need some freedom for yourself. The cages people live in aren’t usually acknowledged or seen.  If the bars are visible, the prisoner usually tells everyone, “oh, I stopped trying to break out, there’s nothing I can do about it.”  There are plenty of people … Read entire article »

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How to Grieve When You’re Still Angry

How to Grieve When You’re Still Angry

Or hurt, disgusted, confused, maybe even scared.  People die.  The relationships they created go on past death to strengthen or haunt those left behind. You will grieve the person that should have been there, and the one you had instead. You’ll grieve what you didn’t get from them. You’ll grieve for the other people they hurt, and maybe feel confused about the people who are missing someone you don’t really recognize. If you had good memories too, you’ll probably … Read entire article »

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Passive Aggressive and Out to Control YOU!

Passive Aggressive and Out to Control YOU!

Are you ready to stop them? Don’t defend yourself.  The passive has been setting you up to defend yourself, vigorously, so they will look more victimized by you. Don’t power struggle.  Just keep smiling, it will irritate the passive more than anything you have to say.  Get frustrated and they will feel victorious.  Take it personally and you’re wasting energy.  They treat everyone like this sooner or later. Make any statement that you need to and follow it … Read entire article »

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Stop Attracting Crazy People!

Stop Attracting Crazy People!

If you look around and your friends take advantage, your family takes you for granted, and your job is in Hell’s waiting room, the common denominator here is you. There is a way out if you’re willing to change. Put yourself in at least the top five of your priority list.  If you’re not important to you, no one else has to take you seriously either.  You’re probably worried that some people will say you’re self-centered and … Read entire article »

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Dealing with the Crazy ex-Spouse

Dealing with the Crazy ex-Spouse

Question: My husband’s ex-wife is making our lives miserable.  She calls my husband’s cell phone at all hours screaming at him.  She keeps taking this whole mess back to court, saying that we’re attempting to alienate her children and we’re abusive.  What makes me nuts about this is how she tells everyone I caused everything. She left him for another man!  I’m sick of defending myself.  Yes, I started dating my husband before the divorce … Read entire article »

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When and how to give an ultimatum

When and how to give an ultimatum

  Question: My husband will rage at me, refuse to talk for hours or even days, and then act like nothing happened.  When I try to ask him what happened, or tell him that I don’t like this behavior, he makes statements about how bad his day, his job, even his life is and won’t address what I’m saying.  I’m sick of the melodrama and the constant sense that my feelings don’t matter as much as … Read entire article »

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