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Spring Cleaning out your life.

Spring Cleaning out your life.

Spring is coming (here in the north we’re expecting it in less than 4 months) and it’s time to clean out your house.   And for every action in your house or apartment, there’s even more important work to do on your heart and soul. We call the eyes windows to the soul, a place we see out, and others have a chance to see in.  But have you looked at your windows lately?  If you haven’t … Read entire article »

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Responsibility will set you free.

Responsibility will set you free.

  Responsibility is a big word with life long effects.  If your child can learn this one word and all the things it means, you will have given them freedom. Or maybe you need some freedom for yourself. The cages people live in aren’t usually acknowledged or seen.  If the bars are visible, the prisoner usually tells everyone, “oh, I stopped trying to break out, there’s nothing I can do about it.”  There are plenty of people … Read entire article »

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Controlling People, really care about their own feelings.

Controlling People, really care about their own feelings.

But you don’t have to. You’ve probably been convinced that you should.  You spend lots of time and energy apologizing for holding someone accountable because they say, “I didn’t mean too!  You act like I wanted to hurt you!”  You enter the conversation wanting an apology and leave it apologizing to the person who hurt your feelings in the first place. Now how does that happen?! Simple.  You’ve been trained to care about other people’s feelings.  And whoever … Read entire article »

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Passive Aggressive and Out to Control YOU!

Passive Aggressive and Out to Control YOU!

Are you ready to stop them? Don’t defend yourself.  The passive has been setting you up to defend yourself, vigorously, so they will look more victimized by you. Don’t power struggle.  Just keep smiling, it will irritate the passive more than anything you have to say.  Get frustrated and they will feel victorious.  Take it personally and you’re wasting energy.  They treat everyone like this sooner or later. Make any statement that you need to and follow it … Read entire article »

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People are trying to Control you

People are trying to Control you

And they have so many ways to do this.  You might think that controllers only yell and directly order you around, but they can be so much sneakier than that.  You may not even know where someone else is taking over your life.  So before we can talk about how to deal, we need to learn how to recognize. “Don’t worry about me, I’m fine”  Sure they are.  Because they are sucking you dry for everything … Read entire article »

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Stop Attracting Crazy People!

Stop Attracting Crazy People!

If you look around and your friends take advantage, your family takes you for granted, and your job is in Hell’s waiting room, the common denominator here is you. There is a way out if you’re willing to change. Put yourself in at least the top five of your priority list.  If you’re not important to you, no one else has to take you seriously either.  You’re probably worried that some people will say you’re self-centered and … Read entire article »

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Someone at work, is out to get you.

Someone at work, is out to get you.

You even know who they are. You didn’t want to believe it, so you’ve made up excuses for how rumors swirled, letters got misplaced, and situations you had calmed down suddenly fired up again. Someone is mad at you, possibly blames you for a stalled career, or maybe their home life sucks and you’re a good target.  Whatever it is, you are not imagining this. You might need to look like you don’t know what’s going on, but … Read entire article »

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Dealing with the Procrastinator you HAVE to work with!

Dealing with the Procrastinator you HAVE to work with!

  I got to thinking about the post I put up last week and how it’s great when people can realize they have a problem, ask for help, and make everyone’s lives better.  Yah, and then we have the more frequent experience of that guy at the office who, “doesn’t have an F*&%#ing problem!”  We all wish he’d read the article about his anger, or his passive aggression, or the way he doesn’t start his projects … Read entire article »

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How can I stop procrastinating?

How can I stop procrastinating?

  Question: I’m an intelligent person.  I do well on projects once I get moving but my co-workers call me the great procrastinator and I think they’re starting to ask if they can work with other people.  My end products are great, but no one wants to put in the crazy hours I do right before things are due.  I’m also starting to miss some deadlines and can’t figure out why.  What can I do? Thanks for … Read entire article »

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Identify and Deal with Passive Aggressive Behavior

Identify and Deal with Passive Aggressive Behavior

Last week I answered a question from a woman talking about divorce.  You may have noticed that I didn’t deal directly with her questions about her husband’s behavior, but wrote about divorce, ultimatums, and asking yourself tough questions instead.  That’s prioritizing.  Deal with the hurting angry person in front of you before you move on to the hurting, angry behavior of the crazy person somewhere else.  Deal with your own pain before you attempt to … Read entire article »

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